Right Game for the Right Age

A word about "playing by the rules." We all have to learn to do it. Imagine if all the drivers on the road didn't have clear rules to follow--we'd never get where we want to go. Playing within the framework of the rules actually permits you to play, and it is an important skill to be learned.

In addition to all these benefits, playing games helps children to learn priceless skills such as visual discrimination, manual dexterity, and critical thinking. The physical manipulation of the game pieces, which should be sturdy, smooth, and pleasant to the touch, is an important reinforcer of these skills.

GREAT! Let's play a game, and first let's choose the right one.

For ages 2 to 3…

Your child may be ready for very simple matching games played one-on-one with Mommy, Daddy or an older child.

CHOOSE IT! When choosing a game look for bright colors, friendly characters, short duration of play, and big pieces. Stay away from spinners, dice and other small parts. The game should incorporate multiple ways to play so that the child does not grow out of it in a few months.

PLAY IT! Use lots of praise to make the game fun. "Great job! You found the bunny!" Talk about what you see: colors, shapes, names of objects. All of this conversation helps in essential vocabulary building.

A great game for this age group: Goodnight Moon Game by Briarpatch.

For ages 3 to 5…

In this age group we will introduce a bit more thinking, discriminating and strategy. However, don't be surprised if your child wants to go back to a simpler version from time to time, just like he returns to his favorite storybook over and over again. Mommy and Daddy are still the favorite play partners, but other kids may join the game.

CHOOSE IT! Look for terms like "self-correcting" and "no reading required" on games that introduce letters, numbers, memory, and simple strategy. Your child's first teachers will thank you for this playful introduction to essential skills.

PLAY IT! Your child will want to punch out and assemble a new game--this is part of the fun! Games for this age group may involve losing a turn, or having to go backwards. She may find this hard to take at first. Model good game-playing behavior, and encourage "playing by the rules" with lots of praise.

A great game for this age group: the original Maisy™ Game by Briarpatch.

For ages 5 and up…

When the child is ready begin to introduce some real strategy, more abstract game play, and more intense competition. It's not too early for checkers and chess, if she has been prepared by playing basic games. Kids may ask their playmates to join them in their favorite board games.

CHOOSE IT! Check the package for age-appropriate skill information and for third party endorsements such as awards by national foundations. Ask the folks at the toy store for their recommendations.

PLAY IT! Be ready, he will now beat you on a regular basis with games of memory, strategy, and skill. Now is your chance to put in practice all those good sportsmanship traits you've been teaching him all this time.

A great game for this age group: I Spy™ Memory Game by Briarpatch.

Family game time--make the most of the opportunity. Soon enough, your child will be absorbed in school, sports and peer group activities and you'll cherish those memories of the times she asked, "Mommy, will you play a game with me?"

Resource:

The Best Toys, Books, Videos & Software for Kids. 1997 by Joanne Oppenheim and Stephanie Oppenheim. Available at Amazon on line, or by calling 212-598-0502.

The author, Martine Redman, is a game inventor, product developer and, with her husband John Donofrio, the owner of BRIARPATCH, a rapidly growing toy company based in Millburn, New Jersey. BRIARPATCH products have been honored with over 100 Best Toy Awards.

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