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Re: All About "Security Blankets"
by Jennifer O'Quinn on Friday April 15, @03:47PM
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While I agree that a child's attachment to a lovey is not necessarily a sign that a child hasn't been nurtured well, it is possible for parents to create object attachment by not being available to their children either physically and/or emotionally. 5 of my six children have never had blankies or lovies, the one child who did, had a pacifier from 9 months to 2 years- the same period of time he was in childcare. At the time I did not see the connection, but none of my other children had substitute care, and none of them had object attachment. I have noticed among friends and aquintances that children who are not regularly separated from their mothers don't tote around lovies and those who are separated early and often from their mothers do. Of course there are exceptions to every generality. Some children may simply keen on the tactile experience of an object. Either way it seems cruel to me to take a lovey away from a child, but I think parents ought to be careful not to offer the object as a substitute for parental attention. Need for an attachment object during separations may be a sign to the parents that the child too young, and the separations are too stressful.
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