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from the baby-blankee- dept. I’ll bet you remember your security blanket or comfort item; I certainly remember mine. I actually had two: a blanket named “Blue” and stuffed leopard named “Spot.” Blue I don’t remember quite as well, as my mother did the cut-it-up trick until it was pretty much the size of a postage stamp. Spot was another matter. Spot still maintains a place of honor in our bedroom. He was made out of leopard-print corduroy, lovingly hand sewn by my mother’s dearest friend. His tummy is still indented from using him as a pillow well into my grade school years. I can still vividly remember the day in first grade when I broke my elbow. Determined to be the first one in the class to skip one on the horizontal ladder bars, I swung and missed and landed badly on my arm. Sitting in the Principal’s office holding my throbbing arm, I listened as the secretary called my mother to pick me up. I’ll never forget her words, “Mrs. Wolfe, you need to come down here right away and get Cherie. She’s broken her arm and I’m sure from the look of it, it will require surgery.” With that, I naturally started screaming bloody murder. The secretary gave me the phone and I can still remember sobbing the only words I could get out, “Mom (sob, sob). Bring (sob, sob) Spot (sob).” Many babies choose blankets, stuffed animals, or dolls as their “lovey” or comfort item--the thing they cannot go to sleep without or need to snuggle in times of stress. Most child experts advocate the use of a comfort item. Babies naturally begin to bond to a blanket or stuffed animal, regardless of the parents' unique parenting style. It is important to note that attachment to a lovey is not a sign that a child has not been nurtured by her parents or that they have not bonded. Actually, the opposite is true. Parents who respond to a baby's needs for assurance will instill confidence and self-esteem in their little one. It is this inner strength that will give the child confidence to slowly learn the needed skill of self-comfort. The Good Housekeeping Illustrated Book of Pregnancy and Baby Care states: “By age eight or nine months, most children form a strong attachment to a favorite toy, a blankets, or a special object. This powerful need for something cuddly will only grow stronger after the first birthday. Experts say it’s a wonderful way for a toddler to cope with the fears and frustrations of growing up, so don’t worry about it or try to persuade your baby to give it up. Keep it handy. Tell babysitters about it, and be assured that having a security blanket will help her as she separates from you. If she adopts a blanket, cut it in half or buy a duplicate one, so that you have a spare should she lose the original or when it needs to be washed.” Research by to the American Psychological Association in 1997 showed that “bringing along a child’s security blanket, (or other ‘security item’) may actually make routine medical exams go smoother when mom is unable to accompany the child.” They tested stress levels of children with and without their blankets and with and without their mothers. They found that when children needed medical attention and their mothers could not be with them, having the security blanket brought the children’s stress level to approximately the same level it would be had the mother been there. 2 This shows the very powerful affect such seemingly little things can have on a child. Security blankets don’t substitute completely for parental love and support. They are, however, for many children a natural part of childhood. The world can be a scary place to a baby or toddler: nighttimes are dark, wind rattles the windows, dreams seem no different than reality, and doctors have to give shots. Having a favorite security blanket or item can be a source of comfort for both the child and the parent. About the Author Cherie Hammer is a San Francisco Bay Area native and resident. After nearly a 15-year career on Wall Street and working as a senior product manager and producer with several high tech consumer software companies, she left the corporate world completely after the birth of her first son. A few months later she launched her first entrepreneurial venture, Cuddle Bug Baby Products (formerly The Sweet Pea Company), which produces unique, hand crafted accessories for babies and toddlers. She has an MBA from the University of California, Berkeley. She is married to a wonderfully understanding and supportive man who is a Silicon Valley software executive. They have one son and one daughter. Her web site is http://www.cuddlebugbaby.com CuddleBugBaby.Comn < | >
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